Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Love and Let Love Live !



This was in 2006 , I had to see a strange situation in someone else's life ,of course it was once again about those typical youth crushes and the destiny which decides "Who gets Who" . I cannot reveal all the details but in the middle of the night , I had a question which is again one of those tricky questions just like - " Egg comes first or the Chicken ?". I even sent to groups then , to listen to people's opinions .It became a famous forward but I did not have many reactions then ,May be people started thinking too much and came up with no answer. Now, I thought its better I start from where I stopped .

The Question is "Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit. Or because Tree didn't ask her to stay ??? ". Before you try to answer the question ,read the following story .





Tree :

People call me "Tree". I had dated 5 girls when I was in PUC . There is one girl who I love a lot but never dared to go after. She didn't have a pretty face, goodfigure or an outstanding charm. She was just a very ordinary girl. I liked her. I really liked her. I liked her innocence, her frankness, herintelligence and her fragility. Reason for not going after her was that I felt somebody so ordinary like her was not a good match for me. I was also afraid that after we were together all the feelings would vanish. I was also afraid other's gossip would hurt her.I felt that if she were my girl, she'd be mine ultimately & I didn't have to give up everything just for her. The last reason, made her accompanying me for 2 years. She watched me chase other girls, and I have made her heart cry for 2 years. She was a good actor, and me a demanding director. When I kissed my second girlfriend, she bumped into us. She was embarrassed but smiled & said, "Go on!" before running off.The next day, her eyes were swollen like a walnut. I did not want to know what caused her to cry. Later that day, I returned from soccer training to get something & watched her cry in the classroom for an hour or so. My fourth girlfriend did not like her. There was once when both of them quarreled. I know that based on her character she is not the type that will start the quarrel. However, I still sided my girlfriend.I shouted at her & ignored her feelings and walked off with my girlfriend. The next day, she was laughing & joking with me like nothing happened. I know she was hurt but she did not know deep down inside I was hurt too.When I broke up with my fifth girlfriend, I asked her out. Later that day, I told her I had something to tell her. I told her about my breakup. Coincidentally, she has something to tell me too, about her getting together. I knew who the person was. His pursuit for her had been the talk of the School. I did not show her my heartache, I showed just smiles & showered Best wishes. Once I reached home, I could not breathe. Tears rolled & I brokedown. How many times have I seen her cry for the man who did not acknowledge her presence? ."Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit. Or because Tree didn't ask her to stay ? ".


Leaf :

People call me Leaf. During the 2 years of PUC, I was on very close terms with a guy as buddy kind. However, when he had his first girlfriend, I learnt a feeling I never should have learnt - Jealousy. Sourness to the extreme limit. They were only together for 2 months. When they broke up, I hid my happiness. But after a month, he got together with another girl.I liked him & I know he liked me. But why won't he pursue me? Since he loves me why he didn't he make the first move? Whenever he had a new girlfriend, my heart would hurt. After some time, I began to suspect that this was one-sided love. If he didn't like me, why did he treat me so well? It's beyond what you will normally do for a friend. I know his likes, his habits. But his feelings towards me I can never figure out. You can't expect me a girl, to ask him. Despite that, I still wanted to be by his side. Care for him, accompany him, and love him. Hoping that one day, he will come to love me. Because of this, I waited for him.Sometimes, I wondered if I should continue waiting. The pain, the dilemma accompanied me for 2 years. At the end of my 2nd year, a junior pursues me. Everyday he pursues me. He's like the cool & gentle wind, trying to blow off a leaf from a tree. In the end, I realized that I wanted to give this wind a small footing in my heart. I know the wind will bring the leaf to a better land.Finally, leaf left the tree, but the tree only smiled & didn't ask me to stay.Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit. Or cause Tree didn't ask her to stay ?.


Wind :

Because I like a girl called leaf. Because she's so dependent on tree, so I have to be a gust wind. A wind that will blow her away. When I first met her, it was 1 month after I was transferred to this new school. I saw a petite person looking at my senior & he playing soccer. During Sports time, she will always be sitting there. Be it alone or with her friends, looking at him. When he talks with girls, there's jealousy in her eyes. When he looked at her, there's a smile in her eyes. Looking at her became my habit. Just like, she likes to look at him.One day, she didn't appear. I felt something missing. I can't explain the feeling except it's a kind of uneasiness. The senior was also not there as well. I went to their classroom, hid outside and saw my senior scolding her. Tears were in her eyes while he left. The next day, I saw her at her usual place, looking at him. I walked over and smiled to her. Took out a note & gave to her. She was surprised. She looked at me,smiled & accepts the note. The next day, she appeared & passes me a note and left.It read, "Leaf's heart is too heavy and wind couldn't blow her away." "It's not that leaf heart is too heavy. It because leaf never want to leave tree." I replied her note with this statement and slowly she started to talk to me & accept my presents & phone calls. I know that the person she loves is not me. But I have this perseverance that one day I will make her like me. Within 4 months, I have declared my love for her no less than 20 times. Every time, she will divert away from the topic. But I never give up. If I decide I want her to be mine, I will definitely use all means to win her over. I can't remember how many times I have declared my love to her. Although I know, she will try to divert but I still bear a small ray of hope.Hoping that she will agree to be my girlfriend. I didn't hear any reply from her over the phone. I asked, "What are you doing? How come you didn't want to reply?" She said, "I'm nodding my head". "Ah?" I could n't believe my ears. "I'm nodding my head" She replied loudly. I hang up the phone, quickly changed and took a taxi and rush to her place & press her doorbell. During the moment when she opens the door, I hugged hertightly.


Leaf departure is because of Wind pursuit. Or because Tree didn't ask her to stay...?


In love, we win very rarely, but when love is true, even if you lose, you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone more than you love yourself. There comes a time when we stop loving someone, not because that person has stopped loving us but because we have found out that, they'd be happier if we let go. Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry? When we imagine? When we kiss? This is because THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN THE WORLD ARE UNSEEN.There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind, but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world. It's the beginning of a new life.


A great love? It's when you shed tears and still you care for them, it's when they ignore you and still you long for them. It's when they begin to love another and yet you smile and say, "I'm happy for you." If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and fly again.Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies, you never have to die with it.The strongest people are not those who always win but those who stand back up when they fall. Somehow, along the course of life, you learn about yourself and realize that there should never be regrets, only a life long appreciation of the choices you've made. Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive, not how you listen but how you understand, not what you see but how you feel, and not how you let go but how you hold on. The Greatest happiness of happiness is seeing your happiness ( read it as your love) happy .

Love,
Vicky

13 comments:

  1. Great way to start the roasting of the snakes!! I agree with you. For the time being, I can't add anything to what ever you said.

    By the way, I gave the name as ANANTHAM for your blog in my blog links. I couldn't find any word more apt than that expecting that we will explore the world here till that level to find all the hidden snakes!!! ;-)

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  2. Hmmm..Interesting take..And a bloody good one too..

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  3. Awesome write up dudes.... I always knew tht u were multi talented but this came very very professional....
    before i comment on your work, just wanted to know if the "Tree" in the write up is a real you or not??? we can take this offline as well ;)
    I felt that there is a deeeep thought process in the writing and it reflects a very sensitive and caring character.

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  4. @ Subbu , Abhi : Thanks ! .
    @ Dileep : You need to take a break . You are thinking too much now a days :-)

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  6. Hie bros,

    "Leaf's departure is because of Wind's pursuit. Or because Tree didn't ask her to stay ??? ".


    i see wind as annoyer who doest know what its impact on tree and leaf or may be wind a cruial being who hates someone together happy.....
    i see tree as poor fellow trying to hold all his leafs but the stronger bond stay n weaker one pass away,few of the leafs just hang with their broken hearts ,they neither can live nor die but stay for a while n rest in peace when annoyer helps them die....
    Finally it may be love/hate/happy/sad whatever "ALL IS FARE IN LOVE":).....
    Great work! .. looking farward for more intresting topics....keep going!!!

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  7. ":) :) :)" I can't comment more than this as I have no authority or expertise on the subject.. my take on this is simple... whichever way you see it "its part of life" . I will neither be extremely sad being a leaf, nor happy being the wind.. coz if you are the tree, there is spring after every winter, if you are leaf you always have some one or something to cheer for, if you are wind no complaints...

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  8. @ Shiv , Well Said , I hope life would be that easy .

    Just thinking how would have Wind convinced the Leaf and if he did it as in this video , then we cant blame the leaf , It's totally justified . Any thoughts ?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e1i8I2I1PXk&feature=related

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  9. can't say anything conclusively because if you had asked tree, even it could have come up with equally convincing arguments why leaf belongs to it.... (we are rational beings and can back any thing with some or the other reason.. ) here in this song wind gives its reasons.

    Moral of the story if I were to say it in a class or in a work environment then it would be "Communication Skills Matter and matter a lot" you know where I am coming from ;)

    one more thing life isn't easy ... its difficult. I just over simplified it and I meant I simplify life and I still see it as difficult one.

    on a different note, read a book recently which reminded me of the discussions we had on love, life etc.. if you get time read it "Road Less Traveled" by Scot Peck

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  10. The way the whole story is told, things are perfectly justified here. But, the moment you start introducing some 'IF's into this story, you can come up with so many possibilities.

    When you consider the leaf's decision,
    It's not just the way the wind expressed itself that might have made the difference, it may be something to do with the way the tree or wind made it feel so far.

    If expressing effectively is all what it takes to win the leaf, then I really pity it's decision.

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  11. lol @ If expressing effectively is all what it takes to win the leaf (this lol is for the figurative expression)

    when I said communicating I was talking about the exchange of information rather than the way its said... it could be either of them
    1. Tree could have said to leaf what it feels
    2. Leaf could have said to tree what it feels

    coming to IF's :
    I feel the entire story is based on IF's e.g. tree thinks if I had said it earlier... or is it because wind persuaded. I might have added a few more.
    all the emotions the story evokes come from conjectures but not facts. i.e. Tree never knows for sure that leaf likes him. neither do leaf..

    Let me explain my view to you by giving an example.. (obviously outside the realm of boy..girl love )

    Case 1:
    Say X is a person who loves to be in IIT. he gives his whole heart for 2 years and doesn't get through because he fell ill on the day of exam.. he is capable of being in IIT.

    He takes up a seat in local engg. college..

    Here wind is the engg. college , Tree is IIT and the X is the leaf.

    will he be sad? may be yes.. will he cry for that may be not or may be yes but he will get on with life soon.If he doesn't then he has some issues.
    Case 2:
    say if the same X studied for a year or two in IIT and went back to local engg college then he might feel sad for a longer time.

    to summarize the above 2 paras
    First case is normal course of life.. second is not. This is because you don't know the opportunity cost of the alternative in first and in second case you do. First case is a black box so to avoid it you have to open up and speak.

    :)

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  12. Sorry Guys , I dint notice my blog was still ON in the form of my tree-post . Good to hear your thoughts .

    @ Shiv - I Love ur example . lol . But I have to borrow your line to state my statement. Your expression is a black box and for you to know the exact truth , you got to experience and speak up.


    @ Subbu ,Shiv - This incidents in the story should be analyzed @ that moment , @ that time . You guys are thinking after reading the entire story . Poor characters in the story , they never knew whats gonna happen the next day . So , if you think from their life's perspective , I m sure you would trim your versions of justice .

    Its always good to have you here ( on & off the blog) . Keep discussing . BTW I am working on a small article , may be end of this week I would post that . Busy with Office & traffic now .

    BTW Thanks to Bala & Vandana too .

    Take Care .

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